Archive for April 16th, 2007|Daily archive page

The dog in the temple knew what happen to me

After reading the article “Give her 1 degree of warm”, I wonder.

Despite the truth of the story, how nice it is if there is someone really so tender to me.

Me too, once having a comfortable apartment and have a so-called “happy family”. Things happen just so sudden that without my realization. I was struggling all by myself all these years after I moved out from there to a rented house.

I can fully understand and feel the same for such a situation. But then, the said wife in that story was quite a lucky lady. She had all her love from her husband. As for me, well, only my two kids knew the situation of ours. Oh ya, may be another one, the dog in the temple. It knew what happen to us…


What love actually is

I had a chat with my new friend this morning.

She asked me, “Does your husband love you?”

I can’t really answer her actually. Then, I need a answer from her. “What love actually is? What’s the “LOVE” best to define? And how to determine if  your husband love you?”

She replied quite confident that when the case happen in…


He can protect and take care of you no matter how. 

He can do whatever for you.

He can solve every problems of yours. 

He can help you out when you are in trouble.  

He can support you for whatever you do.

He can console you whenever you are down and despair.

He works hard for you so as to give you a comfortable life.  

He never give you any worry for your living.  

He cares for your health.

He cares for your feeling.

He gives you the secure of life.

He can’t bear to let you suffer.

He has all the responsibilities towards you.

He is always there for you.

 …                                                                                                                                                       Ya, these are all that I need always from my husband. But I felt quite ashamed of. Sometimes I just feel that it is quite a failure of me for being a woman that I can’t even have a simple love from whom it should give.

It broke my heart when I heard from someone that he said, “She can manage, don’t worry.”

No, I just want to be a simple woman. I just want a simple life. I am not demanding actually. What I really need is care and love.

Well, forget it.

Tomorrow will be another day.

I just don’t have much time to think it too much. What I really concern is that are all these can best define what love is…

Or you think there should be other elements to take part. If you are free or may be you feel like interacting, feel free to drop me some lines. Okay? 

Give her at least 1 degree of warm

I read an article from newspaper.

The author received an email from her friend telling her a story.

There was a couple who were facing the sudden financial problem. That winter, they moved out from their luxury apartment to a rented house. The house they rented was dark and damp, just like their mood at that time.

The husband told his wife: “Trust me, everything’s gonna be all right.”

She trusted him.

Then, he started to strive in his day time, sometime not even a call to her. At night, he was alone with his computer doing his research, reading his mail…, most of the time, he fall asleep. He was too exhausted to even chat with her.

She tried to understand. She knew that he had to work very hard. He need rest. However, no matter how tired he was, he insisted taking shower everyday.

He let her to take her shower first when they were at their apartment. She was so touched and proud that he has a husband who was having sympathy with her.

However, everything had changed.

He would struggle to get first when she wanted to take a shower in their rented house…

She began to hesitate, does it mean he didn’t love her anymore?

Then one day, she can’t help herself and asked him for the reason. He became dazed.

She was so desperated. She felt that she was not only lost her apartment but also her husband as well. Then she switched on his computer one day when his husband was out. She was so surprised to find that…

She read a sentence…

“Today, she asked me why do I always get first to shower? I didn’t tell her the truth. I was afraid that she might feel sorry for me because the bathroom was so cold, but I know, after bathing, the temperature will go up a bit, at least 3 degrees C, 2 degrees C or 1 degree C. It will then give her a bit of warm when she takes her shower after me. In such a hard and cool days, nothing that I can give her but at least, a 1 degree C of warm.”

Her tears tricking down like rain…

I was touched by this story. It’s quite a precious story to me especially in this very moment that I found there is seldom or never have any love around this icy and realistic society. I mean true love.